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The Ultimate Guide to Safer Sex

Learn actionable tips for safer sex, including condom use, PrEP, testing, and STI prevention. Protect yourself and your partners with expert advice.

Your sexual health is personal, powerful, and worth protecting. Whether you’re a seasoned pro or just starting to explore your sexuality, this guide provides practical, inclusive advice tailored for men who have sex with men (MSM). From condoms and PrEP to communication and hygiene, we’ve got you covered with everything you need to practice safer sex confidently and comfortably.


1. Condom Use: Still a Gold Standard

Condoms remain one of the most effective tools for preventing HIV and other STIs. They’re simple, accessible, and essential.

  • Check Before Use: Always inspect the expiration date and packaging integrity.
  • Proper Application: Pinch the tip to eliminate air bubbles and roll it down fully.
  • Lubrication Matters: Use water- or silicone-based lubricants with latex condoms to prevent breakage.
  • After Use: Dispose of condoms in the trash—never flush them.
Feel awkward carrying condoms? Keep a few in a discreet case or your wallet—confidence is sexy.

2. PrEP: Pre-Exposure Prophylaxis

PrEP is a once-daily pill that can reduce your risk of HIV by up to 99% when taken consistently.

  • Who Should Consider PrEP? Individuals with multiple partners, inconsistent condom use, or those in serodiscordant relationships.
  • Medical Consultation: Routine check-ups every three months are essential.
  • Consistency is Key: Daily use ensures maximum protection.
Not sure if PrEP is right for you? A quick, confidential chat with a sexual health professional can help you decide.

3. Regular STI Testing: Know Your Status

Testing isn’t just smart—it’s empowering. Routine STI checks allow you to stay informed, healthy, and proactive.

  • Frequency: Every 3–6 months for those with multiple partners; annually for monogamous individuals.
  • Comprehensive Testing: Include HIV, syphilis, gonorrhea, chlamydia, and hepatitis.
  • Accessible Services: Many clinics provide free or low-cost options.
Tie your tests to other routines—like your haircut or dental visit. Easy, normal, done.

4. PEP: Post-Exposure Prophylaxis

If you think you’ve been exposed to HIV, PEP can help—if you act fast.

  • Immediate Action: Start within 72 hours. The sooner, the better.
  • Treatment Duration: A 28-day course of medication.
  • Emergency Use Only: PEP is not a regular prevention method.
If you need PEP, go to an emergency room or sexual health clinic immediately. No delay.

5. Vaccinations: Preventive Measures

Vaccines are a long-term investment in your health. A few quick jabs can prevent serious illnesses.

  • HPV Vaccine: Protects against genital warts and certain cancers.
  • Hepatitis A & B Vaccines: Highly recommended for MSM.
Ask your healthcare provider about these vaccinations—they’re often free or subsidized.

6. Communication and Consent

Great sex starts with clear communication and mutual respect.

  • Discuss Boundaries: Talk openly about your likes, dislikes, and limits.
  • Share STI Status: Transparency builds trust and ensures informed decisions.
  • Consent is Ongoing: It should be enthusiastic, informed, and continuous.
Try opening with, “I like to check in before we get going—mind if we talk about safety?”

7. Non-Penetrative Practices

There are plenty of sexy ways to connect that don’t involve penetration.

  • Mutual Masturbation: Intimate, exciting, and zero penetration.
  • Frottage: Grinding and rubbing body-to-body can be incredibly pleasurable.
  • Oral Sex: Reduce risks with condoms or dental dams.
Looking to spice things up? Explore non-penetrative play for creative, safer fun.

8. Sex Toys and Hygiene

Using toys? Great! Just make sure to keep them clean and safe.

  • Use Condoms on Toys: Especially when sharing.
  • Clean Thoroughly: Follow the manufacturer’s cleaning instructions.
  • Choose Wisely: Non-porous materials like silicone or glass are best.
Good hygiene with your toys is sexy, smart, and shows care—for yourself and your partner.

9. Personal Hygiene

Cleanliness and comfort go hand in hand with confidence.

  • Shower Before and After: Especially important before bottoming or oral play.
  • Wash Hands: It’s easy and effective.
  • Trim Carefully: Avoid shaving too close to reduce risk of microtears.
  • Use Gentle Products: Unscented soaps protect sensitive skin.
  • Maintain Grooming: Fresh underwear, regular bathing, and basic upkeep matter.
Taking care of your body is part of the pleasure. It’s respectful—to yourself and your partners.

10. Resources and Support

You’re never alone. There’s support out there whenever you need it.

  • Local Clinics: LGBTQ+-friendly health centers provide inclusive care.
  • Online Platforms: Trusted websites can answer your questions 24/7.
  • Peer Communities: Talk to others who’ve been there and get real advice.
Support is strength. Reach out, read up, and get connected.

Browse our Resources page for more.


Final Word: Make Safer Sex Your Standard

Safer sex isn’t about restriction—it’s about choice, care, and confidence. With the right tools, knowledge, and mindset, you can build a sex life that’s not only thrilling and pleasurable, but also secure and empowering. Own your health. Own your pleasure. Stay safe—and stay sexy.

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